Thank you everyone for the great responses! I learn more on this site than the 40 years I attended the meetings. There is an Elder in my congregation who had a "Napoleon complex".
Napoleon complex is a pejorative term describing a psychological condition which is said to exist in people, both men and women, of short stature. It is also known as 'Napoleonic Complex'. [1] It is characterized by overly-aggressive or domineering social behavior, and carries the implication that such behaviour is compensatory for the subject's stature. The term is also used more generally to describe people who are driven by a perceived handicap to overcompensate in other aspects of their lives.
This Elder was the 800 pound gorilla. He would berate everyone. He would give all the ''sex talks'', "marking talks" and even had his hand in demotions of fellow elders. He would always stand and watch everyone at weddings and parties to see how they conducted themselves. He would even talk to bride and groom if the music was not to his liking. Then he would tell the D.J. to tone it down.
I remember that he even attended the Ministry School meeting on the same day they buried his mother-in-law. I felt bad for his wife after seeing her cry sitting in the back. You would think that he would of told his wife to stay home that day.
